I observed that it didn’t really matter what you said to a girl, if a girl liked you she would say something back.
If she is interested in you she will keep the conversation going, if she is NOT she will end the conversation quickly and try to get away.
So I added some gradients steps between 1 and 2 above to make it less embarrassing for me if I got shot down.
Shyness and dating
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I can’t tell them how I am really attracted to them. Answer: Well, that answer is different for different guys, and different for different situations.
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But here is an example of how I overcame my shyness in one situation. If I saw a hot woman, I felt like walking up to her and saying “Wow, are you hot or what? ” or “I’m in love.” Or “Hey, I just saw you over there and I’m really attracted to you.” I thought the sequence of approach was something like this: 1) You have to approach the girl or she is gone forever and you lose.
2) You have to tell her you are attracted to her or you won’t be able to create the chance of seeing her again.
Problem is I couldn’t bring myself to do it, too shy, too insecure about myself. One day I finally sat down and I figured out that the real problem was I was uncomfortable with telling a hot girl exactly how much I liked her because I didn’t want to face the rejection (especially in front of other people) if she responded negatively.
Now prior to this I watched guys approaching girls and observed some gradients.
2) Say something to her or someway attempt to engage her in a conversation or she probably won’t do it herself.