Say that you’d enjoy getting to know her better over dinner one night — you can mention you are more presentable when not wearing one of her disposable bibs.
Dentist and patient dating
So, is it OK to ask, or do I just have to hope I run into her in the grocery store one day?
— Drilling Dear Drilling, It’s a tribute to her skills, or your teeth, or both that you find yourself hoping to get her fingers out of your mouth so you can get to know her better.
Of course, when you have a saliva ejector hanging off your lip, you’re not at your best, so it’s good you haven’t said anything while trapped in her chair.
Dear Prudence, I am a professional man who is generally confident, but I am wondering about the etiquette of asking my dentist on a date.
I have always felt that it is unfair to put someone who works for your business in the position of having to decline your advances, so I have never made such an attempt.
But recently I have become attracted to my dentist.
She is funny, kind, charming, and despite being a fan of a horrible professional football team, seems to be a wonderful person.
There is no reason you can’t ask her, but depending on her romantic status, her reaction to you, and her views of proper dentist-patient interaction, be prepared to be turned down.
I looked up the American Dental Association’s code of ethics and conduct and on relationships with patients it says: “Dentists should avoid interpersonal relationships that could impair their professional judgment or risk the possibility of exploiting the confidence placed in them by a patient.” That sounds like a lot of leeway, so ask away.
The problem is that professionally you only see her twice a year, so I suggest you write her a note — with a big “Personal” across the envelope, and send it to her office.
You can explain that not only is she a fabulous dentist, you find her a delightful person.